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Dating Tips
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The First Date
First impressions are always important
Take pride in your appearance. You don’t have to wear your Sunday best, but wear something flattering that compliments your best features. Focus on your personal hygiene and add a touch of perfume. Now that you look good, please try to be on time!
Choose a suitable venue
With your first date, meet your date at the venue and don’t suggest picking her up. Choose a venue where you both will feel comfortable. The more public, the better. Choose a venue that is not too noisy so you can have a conversation. It is best not to choose your local pub where you can bump into your friends as that might be distracting to your date.
Body language and behaviour
Be confident. There is nothing more attractive than handling yourself in a confident manner. If you are a little bit shy, talk about a subject that you feel enthusiastic about, like a hobby. Try talking to strangers before you go on the date to build up your confidence.
Try not to cross your arms in front of your body as that might project distrust. Smile, be kind and polite. Ask questions and give the other person enough time to answer without interrupting.
Try to avoid the “ex” conversation
This is a dangerous territory, so try to avoid it if possible. You should not bring up your past lovers or experiences. Should your date bring up your “ex”, keep the answers short and light and don’t give too much detail without looking suspicious.
Reassure your date that your past is history and that you would rather focus on the future. If she is still persistent to find out more, kindly tell her that you will answer her questions at a later stage, the better you get to know each other.
Some more tips for...
The First Date
Don’t do all the talking and keep the conversation fun
Keep the conversation light-hearted and fun. Don’t delve too deep into why you don’t like your boss, your circumstance or any other deep topic like religion or politics. Don’t talk about your issues or all the obstacles you had to overcome in your life. That will surely put a damper on the date.
Ask questions and don’t do all the talking. You will have enough time in the future to tell your life story, but for the first date, listening is very important. Don’t mind the silent pauses and fill it with a fun question.
Turn off your phone and smart watch
There is nothing more distracting than someone who constantly checks their phone or smart watch for messages. Tell your friends and family that you are on a date so as not to disturb you with unnecessary calls or messages. Unless you are an emergency worker on call, switch your phone to silent. You can quickly check your phone for emergencies while your date is taking a bathroom break.
Smoking and non-smokers
Non-smokers are not keen to sit in smoking areas. If you are a smoker and the venue has a smoking area, please ask your date where she would like to sit and not just head straight for the smoking area. Also try not to go for a smoke during the date and leave your date alone at the table. If you really have to, ensure you use a breath mint before going back to the table.
Discuss the payment of the bill early on in the date
To avoid an awkward situation when the bill arrives, discuss the bill payment upfront. It is never an easy subject to raise, so do it with a light-hearted question.